The Power of Influence - A Course In Mastery Day 11

Influence is communicating with people so that they take action. Great influences use a six step process to ensure influence:
1. Build Rapport Build trust consciously and unconsciously
2. Discover and Listen Ask questions. Know where they arecoming from.
3. Expose the Problem Find out the need that will motivate action.
4. Expose the Solution Explain the solution and show why it is easy and can be done by them.
5. Use Emotion Facts tell - Stories sell.
6. Ask You must have the confidence to ask without a care as to the result.

Begin today by planning how you will influence a person. Make this exercise a daily practice!

To that end tom wood reccommends Influence: Science and Practice (5th Edition).

Jim Stovall was told he would be totally blind before entering college and chose to help a disabled 4 year old boy who he was told would never amount to anything. When lsoing his own sight it was Christopher who taught him never to quit and whose seven year life would motivate Jim Stovall to help millions.

"No matter what the dream is inside of you is the answer is always 'Yes you can!' because that big dream would not have been put inside of you if you did not have the capacity to achieve it." 

Christopher taught Jim Stovall that there is no such thing as an insignificant person, an insignificant relationship or an insignificant moment. Everything offers us the chance to evalaute our life, to choose, and to make quality decisions.

'Mediocrity is the most selfish pursuit anyone can do.'

 

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How To Network: A Course In Mastery Day 10

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The secret of networking is to help others get what they want. To match people with others who have a shared commonality that mutually assist each other. Once you help enough people you are on your way. The second you ask someone if you can help them you start a cycle of mutual assistance."What do you do John, how can I help you?" The key is to get them to talk about themselves. Communicate with respect and responsiveness. Tragically most networkers think of their own profit first.

Today introduce yourself and ask."What do you do John, how can I help you?" 3 times today. This advice reminded me of Benjamin Zanders words: "Success is about how many shining eyes I have around me." In other words, enlivening the possibilities in others.

Dr. Sheila Murray Bethel, author of 'Making a Difference: Twelve Qualities That Make You a Leader', reminds us of the power of knowing what makes us a pro at what we do, a success in our life. Write a check list of what the best version of you does to succeed.

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How To Build Trust & Rapport - A Course In Mastery Day 9

To succeed we can no longer just be communicators. We must learn to connect. We need to learn to come to the place a person is and then lead them to where we want them to go. We must communicate with respect and responsiveness.

There is a vast difference between talking and connecting. Rather we need to develop rapport, a connection, with people.

Nido Qubein, author of How to Be a Great Communicator: In Person, on Paper, and on the Podium, has been named one of the top 10 communicators in the world. He reminds us that although we spend 78% of our time communicating, we are only 30% effective. Being a good communicator gives you a 'C' in the test of success, a mere pass, to get an 'A' you must learn to connect.

This requires knowing  a persons passions, fears, needs, wishes and aspirations.  Facts tell - but emotions  sell. People must know you are interested in them if you are to be seen as interesting to them.

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How To Listen - A Course In Mastery Day 8

Active listening has on amazing impact your ability to communicate as wis demonstrated by President John F Kennedy who focused on and remembered important things about others even in moments important to himself.

Dr Alessandra uses the term CARESS to describe a thumbnail sketch of good communication: Concentrate. block out everything else around you. focus on the person, blur out the background noise Acknowledge - Give the person your full attention, use good eye contact, nod , use vocal prompts.
Respond. Use empathy statements.
Empathy statements qualify what is said;
1. Attentiveness: I get the impression
2. Identify the emotion: that your so excited
3. Context: that you got all A's on your report card.

Often people who upset need nothing miore than to be recognized with an empathy statement anf then to vent with you as a sounding board.
Exercise Emotional control. Learn what triggers turn you off and cause you to stop listening (racial jokes? sexist slurs?)
Semsing Pay attention to non verbal cues (visual and vocal)
Structure Focus on the verbal content. Repeat back what is said, this clarifies the context and logical order of the information allowing you to be sure you understand the speakers intent.

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Taking Action - A course In Mastery Day 7

Personal power is the ability to take action." - Anthony Robbins

How can we get ourselves to act? It is action, or innaction, that will determine our results.

Plan, do and review - The cycle of Successful Action.

Do you procrastinate? join the club - well perhaps not. DO SOMETHING. The simple act of starting to do something allows us to measure our results and often inspires alternative approaches.

The bigger believable reason we have to do something the more compelled we are to act.

"All you can do is all you can do, is all you can do and all you can do is enough.'

Also there is excellent information on the importance of avoiding all or nothing thinking in relationships. Its the trap that many a well meaning man falls into and wonders why his lover is a tad disatisfied.

The transformational question "Sweetheart, how can I love you more?" feeds a womans heart and soul. We all crave Attention, Affection and Appreciation. As Barbara De Angela's says 'For a woman words are foreplay' whilst so many guys are planning that big trip that they know their girl wants not realising that simply sharing a small act of love now will make everything worthwhile.

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The power of Belief - A course In Mastery Day 6

What made Wilmur Rudolf, the 3 times gold Merdalist at the 1960 Rome Olympics, overcome beoing born premature, survive scarlet fever, beat polio and a wheel chair to become the Olympic champion. It certainly was not being born with physical advantages.





This lesson teaches us how to develop an opinion, into a belief, and into a conviction.



Then success coach Janet Lapp tells the remarkable story of W Mitchell, severely burned and then later paralysed, whose remarkable successes have achieved world wide acclaim. As W Mitchell said: "Before I was paralyzed there were 10,000 things I could do. Now there are 9,000. I can either dwell on the 1,000 I've lost or focus on the 9,000 I have left."

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The Power of Associations - A Course In Mastery Day 5

Who are the 5 or 10 people you hang out with? They will have about the same income and health as you. So - choose healthy people, choose wealthy people.

If you want more you have to do something different and hang around different people.

Darren Hardy tells us how the power of associations and taking responsibility in his own life.

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Learning to Take Responsibility - A Course In Mastery Day 4

Successful people - no matter the circumstances - take responsibility first, before taking the success, responsibility before blaming the circumstances.

This goes to every aspect of our life.
But how can I take responsibility for being hit by a huricane? What do you think? One of the hardest lessons for a leader is to allow others to take responsibility for their actions.

We also meet John Fobby, born without arms. his mother forced him to do everything for himself.

'If you dont have everything you want then make the best with what you have.'
John points out that it is the mental and psychological handicaps are harder than the physical.

...and if you check yourself complaining? check out A Complaint Free World.

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The Slight Edge - A Course in Mastery Day 3

Simple repeated actions can go along way. A salad may noyt improve your health -but eaten daily and your energy will soar.

What can you do daily that will move you closer top your goal?

Simple daily actions are easy to do - and easy to forget. So be determined and make positive habits.

As a bonus Jim Cathcart, author of Relationship Selling, the 8 competencies of top sales producers asks us to daily ask ourselves: "How would the person you would like to be do the work I am about to do today?"
Seek the stimulus that will start progress, take responsibility to make it happen and your goals are on their way.

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Setting Goals - A Course In Mastery Day 2

Day 2 - set your goals and build on your daily sucess.

Write A journal that represents you and start dreaming! Listen to the truly inspirational account of Vladimir Salnikov's four-olympic games career as told by US Olympian John Naber. This is worth watching!

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The Psychology of Success - Mastery TV 30 Day Program

This is the first video in a 30-day series from Mastery TV. The first feature speaker is Les Brown. Follow the program daily and compound your success on your expanding growth. Go for it! - we all have a passion worth developing and contributing to the world.

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Queen meets ballet Bejart : "i was born to love you "

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My Best Friend Dances Kathak ...

OK I have not been able to persuade her to do a video ... so heres a homage to fusion Kathak instead.

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Bolero of Ravel

Unfortunately, this does not fit onto the one clip.
I could not resist this beutiful rendition.

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The Sky Is Falling! The Sky Is Falling!

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Escape

Escape eng from illuzia.net on Vimeo.

Originally, we were created as interconnected social beings and we cannot avoid this fact. Yet, the world we created is so uncomfortable, and it suppresses us so severely, that people are eager to run away from it.

However, when we run away from society, we begin to feel that we have no choice but to be in contact with it. So how can we find balance between these two poles? This situation in particular is what pushes a person to the next level of one’s existence. On that level we obtain knowledge on how to connect with others while keeping our individual uniqueness, and as such, the world becomes comfortable for us to live in.

This is what we need to learn: how to keep our ego and rise above it in order to connect with others. It doesn’t mean that the ego is suppressed in any way; we discover how to use our egoism correctly. Without losing inner freedom, a person rises above his/her ego and connects with everyone else. Together, they then make up one whole.

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